Lesson #73: WHEN YOU JUST OBSERVE FACTS AND DON'T ADD ASSUMPTIONS, STORIES OR INTERPRETATIONS TO THE FACTS, YOU CONNECT. WHEN YOU DON'T CRITICIZE, YOU CONNECT.

(OBSERVATION TOOL LESSON ---- brings tranquility to your life and your mind opens)

DESCRIPTION: Life can be so easy. People can be so simple. Unfortunately people get numb when they criticize. And they are in such pain that they want to make everyone miserable. They do horrible things like punish people and dominate. That's just the level of aliveness they're coming from. It's from their head, their pain, their ego. It's not right or wrong. It just is. You do it too. You get put in your head. Every time you ask yourself "Why this?" or "Why that?" or "Why anything?", it's the mind (the ego) asking you to make up a story or an assumption, asking you to shut down your trust and making everything small. If you let the mind run, no wonder the world "seems" so impossible. The mind makes up stories like "They are attacking me because I am too __________" or "This person is doing this to you because ____________" or "This deal did not go through because this other person probably _________________". People observe and add stories and interpretations and that's where the pain comes in. People criticize and judge. They are bored. All those opinions, assumptions and judgments bring their energy level down and they start being very bored. They don't know what hit them. When you criticize somebody that is criticizing somebody or something, you just have gone down to their level. The good news is that we have the observation tool. With the observation tool you can see through people's pain and you can see just facts instead of criticize. You can describe in your head: "I see a person that needs my attention right in front of me" or "I see a person that is mad and yelling". Nothing is about you anyway (Lesson #33). Observing facts can be as intense as when you drive fast on the highway and you are measuring how many inches you are between that big truck and the large truck on the other side. It's quite exciting. When you only see facts and you stay with the facts (not the stories your head creates), then you keep your power. If you just observe facts, the pain goes away. If you let the heart run, you only see facts and you get compassionate with yourself. It's a discipline to take the heart's road and to put aside all that the mind "makes sense" about. All that making sense is a lie if we identify or believe all those stories. The heart is smarter because it only believes what it "sees". It only sees facts and loves them and loves everyone involved. There is a certain power when you don't make people wrong. Your life can be changed just by this: you making it your job be to make people "right". Let's see through the eyes of our heart.

INSTRUCTION FOR YOU TO KEEP YOUR POWER AND FOR YOU TO SERVE THE TEAM SPIRIT (NOT A PERSON IN PARTICULAR):

Observe facts. Only facts. Even if someone is attacking you. Just think to yourself all the facts that you see. Do not let your mind make up stories. Just see the facts and love your mistakes. See which level of aliveness people are talking to you from. Amuse yourself inside. Do not make yourself wrong if you did not observe just facts. Do not make anyone wrong that is not observing just facts. Do not give them advice. Just observe. Give feedback if you want. (Lesson #56 / Lesson #73 & #74 / Lesson #60). (All this is what a toddler would do and as an adult if you do this you keep your connection and your power. When you follow these instructions, your levels of tranquility & adventure open and you are open to receive.)

You are "in resistance" if you do any of these behaviors below. A resistance "leaks" money and/or love AND stops your momentum of your results, your adventure and aliveness. When you have a resistance or a mood, you block $10,000 of income. People create a memory of your reactions and behaviors and then decide to stay around or distance themselves. You don't have to keep everyone happy. It's not about that. It's about keeping the team spirit up in case you want to keep those particular people around (family or business related). When you drop these resistances (distractions), you have a better chance of becoming one of the 2% of high performers in the world. You can only drop these resistances with the help of your heart not with your mind.

All these resistances listed below create disconnection to yourself and the people around you. The ego is the one that wants you to feel small and wants everything to seem small. All these are when you are "in your head" where the ego is. The team "spirit" (of a business team or family team) goes down if:

• If you don't just observe facts.

• If you add assumptions or interpretations to the facts.

• If you let your mind make up stories.

• If you make any assumption.

• If you assume that someone is not considering your time.

• If you assume that someone does not love you.

• If you assume anything that anyone is thinking. You are not sticking to only the facts.

• If you make any assumption.

• If you don't love your mistakes.

• If you don't try to see which level of aliveness they are coming from.

• If you lose time and you get angry.

• If someone makes you lose time and you get angry.

• If you lose money and you get angry.

• If someone makes you lose money and you get angry.

• If someone makes you lose a connection and you get angry.

• If you don't give feedback to the people that made you lose time, money or a connection.

• If you give feedback with anger.

• If you make yourself wrong for not observing facts.

• If you make anyone wrong that is not observing facts.

• If you give advice trying to make anyone just observe facts.

• If you don't stop to observe that they are just coming from a shut down level of aliveness.

:::: Basically nothing is wrong or right. It just is. This way you keep your power and momentum.

If you attach to the end result, your energy will go down. If you just observe facts, it does not mean that people will be attracted to you immediately. It takes time to build trust and connection and there are many factors. You are "trying people out for your team". Not everyone will make it. Some are too addicted to pain and want to stay in the fight. You can let them go as quick as possible. They might come around later in a gentler mode but you can't force it. This is why there are 100 lessons. Please practice and study them all until the end so your connection understanding is complete. Please call Mariana Cortez if you have any questions on how to master this lesson (512) 636-8846 in the US. Sometimes it needs an "experience" to understand the lesson with your heart and playfulness instead of your mind. You have a free 30 minutes Language of Connection session over coffee or Skype with Mariana Cortez. Then any other day if you want you can schedule a 60 minute session for $60.

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